Have you ever seen a really beautiful woman with a fairly average looking man? I see this all the time, and I know that one of the first things that run through most guy’s minds when they see this is, “He must have lots of money”, or “It must be because he’s so tall” or something like that.

They can’t grasp the FACT that women aren’t into “looks” as much as men are.

Yes, it’s a fact. I will prove this to you in just a moment.

Now, I’m not saying that good looks aren’t going to help. Of course they are. If you look like Brad Pitt, that’s a nice advantage!

However, scientific studies demonstrate that women disagree a lot more than men on what they consider to be “attractive”.

For example, in one study, 4,000 participants were asked to rate photos of both men and women. The results showed that women agree a lot less than men over who they find attractive:

As a group, the women rating men showed some preference for thin, muscular subjects, but disagreed on how attractive many men in the study were. Some women gave high attractiveness ratings to the men other women said were not attractive at all. [Source: ScienceDaily.com, June 27th 2009]

I also did an informal study among my female friends (and some of their friends), in which I wanted to see how important looks was to them compared with other factors such as confidence.

For most of them, “confidence” and “sexiness” in a guy was more important to them than looks! Here is a small sample of the things they told me:

“I’ve dated a lot of guys, and most of them haven’t been ‘handsome’, but they were confident and sexy.”

“It’s not so much about how he looks, but about how he acts, if he feels he has confidence.”

“Even an ugly guy can be sexy, if he has confidence and he wears something that brings out the things he likes about himself.”

By the way, please note that “sexy” does not mean sexual. Know the difference. Sexy is James Bond staring at the waitress with an eyebrow raised and saying, “Shaken, not stirred.” Sexual would be him grabbing the waitress by the ass and coming out with some lame pick up line.

So confidence can go a long way – in many cases, further even than “good looks”. And the same is true of money, height and all the other things guys think they need in order to succeed with women.

In fact, too many guys talk themselves out of approaching a woman they like precisely because they don’t feel good looking enough, tall enough, or have enough money. This perceived lack creates a lack of confidence, and this lack of confidence means they make themselves less appealing to women, creating a self-fulfilling prophecy!

So having confidence with women is THE most important factor in getting the women you want.

In this regard, I am going to recommend what I consider to be the single best resource for approaching, attracting and getting women. It’s written by a guy called Joseph Mathews (also called “Thundercat”), and it’s called The Art Of Approaching.

Now, I want to be totally upfront with you. I am an affiliate of his, so I get a commission if you buy from the following link. However, if I were simply in it for the money, there are much higher paying courses than his. I’m recommending his because I’ve read a lot of ebooks and bought a lot of dating material… and his is pretty much the BEST of the bunch for meeting and approaching women.

Joseph covers EVERYTHING you need, from having the right mindset and beliefs in the first place, right through to what to do after you’ve got the woman. (Or women!)

You can get his Basic course (which includes the Art Of Approaching ebook and 3 bonus books) for under fifty bucks (i.e. less than what most guys spend on a night out!), or you can invest in his Deluxe or Ultimate course, which contains more material. It’s entirely up to you, but you MUST get and read the Art Of Approaching ebook at the very least. I can’t emphasize enough what an amazing difference it will make to your life.

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